A nice blog entry from over at Miati Notes on Toxic Relationships that certainly goes to the heart of what I have been feeling over the last few days. As listening to Frank Herbert’s Dune this morning reminded me of the Litany Against Fear, this post by Miati reminds me of the importance of letting-go.

Our term SOLUTION actually derives from the Latin word SOLVARE: to detach or let go. When we have taken on ourselves a lot of obligatory expectations from others–e.g. the “American Dream”–the problem of it arises in our getting stuck. We become fixed, or better, affixed like we are glued to that notion. Unable to let-go, our lives become problematized, we become a problem to ourselves. In that instance, the only real solution is to recognize that we are not a problem and the problem with social obligation is forgetting we can say, “No thank you.” Detach. Let-go. Release yourself!

I have failed. When it comes to the American Dream I have failed miserably. Rationally I know that, given enough time, the American Dream usually turns into a Universal Nightmare. In that case, I have already succeeded. But, I wanted to at least have the Dream come true, before dealing with the Nightmare. I have developed a fear of nightmares, because I am smack in the middle of one.

Oh well. Complaining is not going to award me the Dream. I have been complaining for long enough to finally know better. I might as well roll out of bed, and get real. At least I still have a bed to roll out of. I have seen plenty of people getting evicted out of their dream house and forced to leave their worthless luxury goods behind. I have learned how to keep things simple a long time ago. I did not fail to learn that success comes with debt for most of us. More liabilities, more problems.

A thin silver lining: I succeed in learning. Now I need to learn to let go of the Empty Dream, and come up with a wholesome vision of my own. A vision that suits me, instead of psychopathic Step-Uncle Sam… (cont)

via I Have Failed | Miati Notes on Toxic Relationships.