I’ve said many times across diverse social media that our society is inherently misogynistic. A big part of the oppressive structure of our institutions is the instantiation of a heteronormative dichotomy that harms both sides of the normative pole and all those who do not actually fit within that continuum. This article goes a long way toward elucidating why both men and women should adopt a feminist praxis as well as why the notion of misandry arises from a misperception of what is being critiqued. It is the patriarchy and all of the privileges afforded certain people by accident of birth that is being opposed, not men in general. And note that I said “certain people’. There are some women who succeed because of how they embrace and internalize the patriarchy just as there are some men who fail because they refuse to do so. But in the end this is not about drawing distinctions between men & women (that is a disciplinary technique perfected by patriarchal institutions). This is about finding how the differences between each of us is the ground for a solidarity, a companionship that can bring about a profound alteration in how we treat each other.
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
- #TellAFeministThankYou Trends on Twitter | What’s in the Meaning of a Word? (heartbeatnosh.wordpress.com)
- We need to talk about silencing. (thenotsoquietfeminist.wordpress.com)
- Lilipop’s Feminism (jellyandlilipop.wordpress.com)
- Occupying Feminism (makemeasammich.org)
- Feminism and Female Friendships tw: slut, slurs (essexfeministsociety.wordpress.com)